4 Joyful Reasons Why American Single Women are Enjoying their Status

Happy Single American Women (image from  http://www.flickr.com/photos/)

     

     Why are single women across 50 states increasing? There may be a lot of factors behind the recent statistics that there are more American single women now than married: young professionals who are waiting for their careers to take off or be successful before they consider marrying; women who are living without their military men husbands who are deployed somewhere in the country or in other countries; the divorcees who choose to devote their time to taking care of their children; the baby boomer women who stayed single out of free will and not to marry again.

     Although general commercialism is couple-based and relationship-centered as pictured in Hollywood movies, TV commercials, billboard and print advertisements, there seems to be a “single” bug lurking around in which manifestations are enjoyable and the remedy is to get the hang of it and plain enjoy it.  

     According to Karin Anderson, Ph.D., assistant professor of psychology at Concordia University Chicago in an article written by Julie Andrews for http://www.yourtango.com, “The message to singles tends to be that they’re doing something wrong (that’s why they don’t have their significant other). ‘You’re too this’ or ‘You’re not enough that.’ Being single is treated as this problem needs to be solved,” says Anderson. “That’s really bogus. We should be telling single women, “You’re fine. There’s nothing wrong. Enjoy your life.”

     And ENJOY is what they exactly did. Why are American women doing so? Here are the very best reasons:

1.)    Single Women have time for themselves, friends and families and in meeting other people. This is one of the things those committed counterpart envy about single women, they have more time for themselves, friends and families. Precious time is what they have when they go out and meet other people, may it be for a personal date or just joining a club, picking up a new hobby or converting your time to money by venturing to a new business. They can meet new guy friends as well without having to worry if somebody will be jealous since she is a single woman.

2.)    Single Women gains wisdom. Being single indulges a person to solitary moments. Whatever they’ve gone through to be single, whether it by choice or a series of bad encounters/ relationships, oftentimes, something will shine through from all of these – it’s Wisdom. That helped them appreciate life more, have an attitude of gratitude and be more mild-mannered in unpleasant life’s moment. It also comes handy when somebody needs such advice at a timely moment, they can be a shoulder to cry on. I guess no amount of relationship can give a person that much life’s enlightenment.

3.)    Single Women are more focused and less distracted from fulfilling goals and performing responsibilities. Being single gives women the opportunity to focus on their studies or to pin their attentions on that promotion she has long been waiting. Unlike the stage when they were in a relationship, this time they give 100% devotion to the things they’d like to achieve most at this time. Nothing can be better than picking herself up and achieving that long-wanted heart’s desire.

4.)    Single Women have freedom of choice and choice of freedom. For me this is the biggest blessing of being a single: F-R-E-E-D-O-M of choice. Married people are green with envy in this precious boon. Single Women, being partner-less at the moment found peace and usually, they meet God who can give them unconditional love. They are empowered. With this power, they can decide if they would want to help somebody or spend their time rather in an early Saturday event for a cause over a so late Friday night social party. They can choose to direct their energy from leisure activities like playing Farmville or going around Cityville in Facebook to a selfless social aid by volunteering their time to Habitat for Humanity or simply visiting a sick cousin. They don’t have to tell their every decision or every move to their respective boos. They can breathe more, they can give more to themselves , and in the process they have the freedom to share a part of their wonderful “them” to others in various forms:  service, monetary, advice or even a warm smile. Life is Beautiful. La Dolce vita.